I can tell you that if we were having a conversation in real life and someone said something along the lines of "rape victims should just deal with it / get over it" she would be out of the room in tears faster than you could blink. If you think that's ok, just her problem, then fair play to you, but I think that would make him an inconsiderate and unpleasant cunt and you can bet your ass he wont be invited to anything im organising again.
Society massively underplays the prevelence and severity of rape. And by society unfortunately I do mean men. Very few women make these jokes. Its ingrained and unconscious. I know lots of otherwise perfectly liberal, right on kind of guys whose initial reaction when they hear about something like this is to question the girls' story. (I mean seriously, that's your "go to" response to hearing one of your friends has been raped?). Society is fucked up on this point and supporting these kinds of jokes just reinforces that view.