An example that might be worth debating. I'm becoming good friends with a girl I met a few weeks ago. She used to do (and I hope she does again) stand up comedy. She is a very funny person, she is very intelligent and I have a blast with her. But she told me of her attempts at stand up, particularly when she would get into very "female" topics. Talking about female sexuality, in a funny manner, and she'd get a good laugh out of it, especially from women. But then men would become very uncomfortable and sort of look strangely at their girlfriends and wives, and the place would get very quiet. That's a very subtle and dangerous form of misogyny.
There's a lot of talking about female comics, and the very standard notion of "women not being funny." And that's downright, blatantly wrong. I follow a huge amount of women on twitter, journalists and comedians, and I don't mean overtly feminist orientated people. Just people tweeting about what's going on in the world and they are very funny. And these people often complain that women are underrepresented on comedy shows on TV. And while I think that's a very important issue, I think the bigger issue is that women aren't seen to be funny. (and obviously getting women on tv will help that.) I could easily be swayed to say women have a different form of humour, they tell "jokes" differently. And people can find this funny, I know I do if twitter is anything to go by. But because they aren't seen to be funny, people aren't allowed to laugh at it, and the dominance of "male" comedy continues.
Feminism is about an equal footing for women with men. But really, it's about attitudes to society. I don't believe it's about glass ceilings on careers, or equal pay, I think it's very much about how "femininity" is treated in society. And the idea that a female attitude or outlook on life is somehow lesser than a male outlook.
And men absolutely suffer from this too. The typical example is childcare. How many men have a traditionally female view on kids, getting broody (or paternal) and wanting to look after kids. But they're discouraged from doing so and looked down upon if they become stay-at-home dads. And you can call that an equality/egalitarian issue, or you can call it a feminist issue. And by feminist issue, I mean that people look down on the man because he is giving up his position of greatness to fall into a lower tier of personhood, a feminine tier of personhood.
Really, whether you want to call it feminism or egalitarianism is pretty much irrelevant, it's about tolerance in society and the willingness to be open to and understand what other people want, need and who they are. And that's what's so fucking annoying about the response to these videos. There's absolutely fuck all attempts being made to understand why someone would feel these are needed.
And most of all, if you're a man and you're a good person, please don't take the man-bashing personally. It's directed at fuckwads like Wall, not people who are being genuine in their ability to understand their fellow "man."
I'm being deliberately inflamatory to provoke debate as usual.
For me a feminist are those radical females who are mostly just disguising their personal hatred of men in general with a politically correct facade, whereas you view feminists as all women who fight for equality.
It's an incredibly powerful debating tactic if your opponent accepts how define the debate framework. In this case he threw up such a large number of strawmen that he's defined nearly every conceivable counter argument (legit or not) is already solidly covered under a single label he's defined as "unacceptablex.
He can sit and respond to anybody he's "defined out of the debate" with no trouble because nobody challenges the framework of the issue
Note, for example, the lack of response to the point that males are similarly ridiculously unrealistic in video games. The only possibly response is that its a continuation of the "male fantasy' whichwould require (1)because claiming women aren't gamers (a bad response became a negative definition of women is defined as misogny) or (2) that video games simply aren't realistic, which defeats the purpose of exploring tropes as minstereotyping only women.
Edit: missed some posts ... I'll keep the above but add (3l dismiss the argument with an unsubstantiated handwave that male characters are "more developed" and therefore acceptable, which is an obvious dodge but still keeps with my above assertion about hos use of definition and framework to win an argument before it starts.
Edit2: not hating on pall btw, just pointing g out how he fans the flames @and uses the opening statement to define the debate in a way that's favorable to him. Probably a good RL lawyer
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I tried to be cool and all I got was a lousy warning about my sig being too big.
A project about negative male stereotypes in videogames (rather than Misandry) would be worthwhile.
I once had sex and I didnt even rape the girl.
not even a little bit.
Your posting is medium, its not rare and its not well done
- Krans 26/7/12
That isn't the point. There are of course ridiculous, unrealistic and yes, damaging tropes about men in videogames. That would also be a worthy topic for a video series.Note, for example, the lack of response to the point that males are similarly ridiculously unrealistic in video games. The only possibly response is that its a continuation of the "male fantasy' whichwould require (1)because claiming women aren't gamers (a bad response became a negative definition of women is defined as misogny) or (2) that video games simply aren't realistic, which defeats the purpose of exploring tropes as minstereotyping only women.
That argument has absolutely nothing to do with the worth, or lack thereof, of this project about female tropes however. Its NOT a counterargument or a reason not to support this effort.
That's why I listed it in my "list of strawmen" (which is in fact not a list of strawmen because you are using that argument).
Let's instead ask why that matter when it comes to women in games? Does two wrong make a right?
Or we could ask, how does those male and female stereotypes affect people? Is there a difference on male and female stereotypes, why is that and what effect does that have on females and males playing? And are those good/bad? Are there perhaps more stereotypes that are "good" for male characters than for females?
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But its worth having an introspective moment and asking yourself why, fundamentally, you are suspicious of this kickstarter project rather than any and all other kickstarter projects. Do you have a gut dislike/suspicion of projects that target discrimination or negative views of women? Or of projects that criticise videogames?
Nathan Drake is an unrealistic representation of a man. I can't even jump over a chest-high box let alone hang on to a cargo net flapping around out the back of a airplane.