if the shoe fits, play ball.Originally Posted by ctrlchris
wait...How many chinese (?) prostitutes now have ruptured bellybuttons as a result of men having only previously practiced on that anatomically dubious doll?Your wife
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C/D?
Are you saying that I *shouldn't* be fucking the bellybutton
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I've decided to go to a transgender support group that just so happens to be starting in an hour from now. I'm nervous as fuck. All the other transgender people I've met have been when I've gone to Dublin. This would be the first time I could get outed to people in my city that I have no control over.
Good luck. It'll be fine.I've decided to go to a transgender support group that just so happens to be starting in an hour from now. I'm nervous as fuck. All the other transgender people I've met have been when I've gone to Dublin. This would be the first time I could get outed to people in my city that I have no control over.
Girl, you could out them right back. Don't see why they would do that. You'll be fine, go go.I've decided to go to a transgender support group that just so happens to be starting in an hour from now. I'm nervous as fuck. All the other transgender people I've met have been when I've gone to Dublin. This would be the first time I could get outed to people in my city that I have no control over.
Heh, mutually-assured outing.
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Best of luck Mrenda!I've decided to go to a transgender support group that just so happens to be starting in an hour from now. I'm nervous as fuck. All the other transgender people I've met have been when I've gone to Dublin. This would be the first time I could get outed to people in my city that I have no control over.
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It'll be fine you'll enjoy it.I've decided to go to a transgender support group that just so happens to be starting in an hour from now. I'm nervous as fuck. All the other transgender people I've met have been when I've gone to Dublin. This would be the first time I could get outed to people in my city that I have no control over.
Best of luck Mrenda!
BTW: Mrenda have you ever seen "My Transexual Summer" the channel 4 programme? Highly recommend it if not.
Good luck, Mrenda!
Im otjer news, 'she' wont break up with her bf. A lot of new information, she cried a little but basically women gonna :woman:
Will write more tomorrow, busy getting drunk and facepalming.
You're better off anyway. In my experience people who cheat don't do it because they're dissatisfied with their current relationship, they do it because they get off on cheating, or more generally danger. Honestly I try not to judge, some people just like the spice it adds and they're honestly not trying to hurt anyone, at worst they're being self centered, at best just not thinking it through. Best to avoid them if you're looking for more than a little fun in the sack, they'll never be good material for stable relationships.
Just out.of.the support.group. Nicest people there were the two ftms. They.could.actually.hold a conversation and didnt give.off.weirdo.vibes. Even.if.one.of.them was a.stereotypical.jolly fat.man. There was one tranny from my.past. Mtf. Has been trying to get a diagnosis for at.least.the past.five years.but.no.shrink.will.give.it.until she sorts.through.her.myriad.problems. There's an extreme.possibility she blabs about me to.my wider social circle.
All.in all it was.pretty boring. No big revelations. No enlightening chats. Very.much.focused on the local.gay.community and what.to do for/with.
I dunno.if ill be back next.month. The trannies I met.off the internet were.a lot.more fun.
Sounds.like.a.productive.evening
Big.up.Mrenda
No I don't think it ended with anything Big up mrenda, hence how it wasn't as much fun.
In other news, I'm 31 with a not so amazing desk job that leads nearly nowhere and haven't skilled up in quite a while. I realised yesterday my math skills would make an 8th grader blush. I'm far better creatively (writing, witticisms, talking le poop) than anything but a large part of me doesn't see that as 'work' or something I can make money doing. I'm good with computers but not in a marketable way. Have done 3 subjects of an IT degree but its stupid expensive (hello australia).
That and I've become a bit of a shut in over the last few years. Visit mates occasionally, very occasionally go clubbing. My want is to really sell my house, move somewhere cheap and sort my shit out, but thats at least a year off. Until then I need to build /skills but i'm not at all sure what. What does scrapheap consider the most marketable skillset/job type out there? Dumb, broad question no doubt but I'm stumped. Only thing I think i'd be good at currently is computer sales/support but no previous experience to prove that with to a potential employerer.
/tldr Being a shut in gamer faggot doesn't give you good employable life skills, wat do
I can give you one bit of advice which is really all I can give you at this time.No I don't think it ended with anything Big up mrenda, hence how it wasn't as much fun
In other news, I'm 31 with a not so amazing desk job that leads nearly nowhere and haven't skilled up in quite a while. I realised yesterday my math skills would make an 8th grader blush. I'm far better creatively (writing, witticisms, talking le poop) than anything but a large part of me doesn't see that as 'work' or something I can make money doing. I'm good with computers but not in a marketable way. Have done 3 subjects of an IT degree but its stupid expensive (hello australia).
That and I've become a bit of a shut in over the last few years. Visit mates occasionally, very occasionally go clubbing. My want is to really sell my house, move somewhere cheap and sort my shit out, but thats at least a year off. Until then I need to build /skills but i'm not at all sure what. What does scrapheap consider the most marketable skillset/job type out there? Dumb, broad question no doubt but I'm stumped. Only thing I think i'd be good at currently is computer sales/support but no previous experience to prove that with to a potential employerer.
/tldr Being a shut in gamer faggot doesn't give you good employable life skills, wat do
Get hobbies which force you outside the house, to meet people and to socialize. Doesn't meant you have to give up gaming entirely but dim it down a little.
Chances are if you work a regular desk job without any specialization the only thing that stops you from moving up is you. Become more confident, socialize with people in your workplace more, take executive decision when you can and when it is appropriate. It will get people to notice you, and you will climb the ladder fairly quickly. Nothing is holding you back but your own actions.
If there is no room to climb or the sector you work in is a deadbeat, change career or follow an education. It will be the only way to go from general-everyone-can-do-it work to specialized work.
It might sound fairly simple, but it takes some work to actually execute that. You have a standing reputation with people, change needs to go slow or people won't believe in you.
I see someone was typing from their phone.
Sorry for the long post, wouldn't dare writing a behemoth like that but its a slow month in the emothread so i'll just do it. I needed to vent as I got kinda mad, everything you will read is just plain wrong and ... I dont know how to describe it. Words fail me.
Yeah I know, didn't had plans for anything serious anyway. Hopefully i'll be 1500km to the west in 2-3 months (if they accept me at one of the universities where i want to study). I know that she's not really proper material for a relationship or something, I just still enjoy spending time with her, going out to eat, maybe for a drink or two.
Enough of this, time for a proper update for the fhc folk
I was really curious what will happen when we see each other, will it be awkward or something. The good thing is that by the looks of it things seem to be okay and both of us are reacting in a non-retarded fashion. We talked about a lot of things including my masters applications and my (hopefully) failed attempts to crap all over them and screw everything up (sending documents to the wrong place and shit like that). After the mandatory "things are really slow in the summer" / "everyone is at work, booring or on a holiday" she mentioned that she's wondering what to do about her birthday (3 weeks from now on). With some luck she'll manage to find enough people and actually have some fun on her bday for a change (its in the worst possible season lol).
Then we moved on some more interesting things. I asked if she's okay with what happened - I wanted to make sure that we havent screwed up our relations too much. I am looking on the bright side of things, she also confirmed that she feels as if we are closer so .. no awkwardness - check.
Then she spent a hour and a half telling me about her attempts to break up with her bf. To be honest I also thought that its some bullshit and she actually didn't do anything.
Before I continue I want to ask about two things. First, dont bash me for feeling bad for a friend. A friend is a friend even if she gives you a blowjob and/or acts in a stupid way. Second, I think that everyone agreed that she's a horrible person, a whore, spineless bitch that uses people etc etc. No reason to say it again, got it.
Ok, here we go. I think i'll start with the breakup attempts. Not sure how cool it is to post about someone else's relationship on the intertubes and my english is kinda shit when it comes to explaining things but \o/ whatever.
The first time was 6-7 months ago, she gradually grew distant to him. Things went so far that she didn't want to hug/kiss him anymore, not to talk about other things. She also acted colder to him, they picked some fights. The problem with him was (at least that's what she said) that on the other day he acted as if nothing happened and ignored the fact that there are underlying problems. Changing things around was out of the question ofc. Things escalated around Christmas and he finally realized that there might be a problem (lol). Things get blurry here as I dont remember the details really well, but after a conversation ending with "do you want to be with me or not" (she didn't answer the question) and one day of "lol we are breaking up" they got back together as he promised that he'll change himself (wat) and the way things are in their relationship.
That, of course, didnt happen. 2-3 months later things started to get kinda ugly. She told him that she doesn't feel the way she felt before and she wanted to break up. He couldn't comprehend that (or ignored it) and asked what's wrong again. Sounds like me when I couldn't accept that someone simply doesn't like me. At that point I asked her if that's his first relationship as he was showing classic neckbeard syndromes (more on that later). Not the first at all but definitely the first serious. After some shouting and :drama: they break up. That's the first time i really facepalmed hard. He accused her that she's ungrateful for all he has done for her since they are together. He tried to make her feel guilty, told her that she won't be happy in another relationship ever again and after some time she'll appreciate him and how good he is.
Yeah making someone feel guilty to stay with you is definitely the way to go. I was literally "what the fuck is he doing", that plus the fact that he is ignoring the actual problem and is looking for an easy to fix one was just umm, I wasn't sure what to say here.
Then they broke up for 1 day. He called her to and asked her to exchange their things they had at their places (shit english alert, not sure how to say this correctly). When they met she couldn't bear watching him like that. When he asked her if they could try to fix things again and promised that he'll change she agreed. Yep sure, even if the girl knew that this wont happen.
Then she told me how relieved he felt and he looked as if he was shining like a thousand suns (didn't use these words but i know the feeling / the look).
Things are the same since then. Now one may wonder why is she still with him. I wonder that too but wait till i finish.
The problems she said she has with him are a lot and I really dont remember them all, i'll just mention some of them. He doesn't feel that birthdays, holidays and anniversaries are that important. Sure he can ignore his own if he wants, but one can not decide for someone else. Also ignoring your first anniversary with your girlfriend and going out with friends isnt really cool. Thats mostly an old one, it was more like a list of *things that disappointed her / surprised her in a bad way* since they are together.
She is bored when she is with him, they are always doing the same, going at the same places every time. No variety in sex (no big surprise here). He doesn't want to go out at night with her, the excuse being that he's at work the next morning (not the actual reason). After work he just sits in the living room, watches tv and does nothing.
One of the most annoying things (for me) - he is often scolding her for really basic shit that in his opinion needs to be done *his* way. She feels him more like a brother/father, not a boyfriend.
No self-reflection. Ignorance. Delusion :/ he seems to believe that there isn't a serious problem and convinces himself that she's not 'right' for wanting to go away.
He doesn't attract her anymore, there's no chemistry; when she talks/txt's him she doesn't feel the same way as when she does it with me for example. Hmm thats normal I think, every woman enjoys some attention. Not sure if she avoided saying that I attract her (but I sure hope so, I could use a confidence boost).
He seems to be stuck in his own world where he lives a happy life with her. He told her that if she leaves him he'll have no prospects of finding another person to live with. He's 25 god damn it, really? It's his own choice to limit his social circle and he can re-expand it again. I immediately called bullshit on his part, she agreed :/
TL DR: He really loves her but he's blindly thinkin that he will live with her, marry her, then children etc. His brain seems to refuse a reality where he's not with her. Extremely clingy. Also a good person (cant deny that). Thinks that he can fix everything if he shows how much he loves her. Ignores the fact that she also has feelings (or the lack of).
I really don't know why she's still dragging this. She's obviously attached to him and she still has some feelings. Not sure if love (she said that she doesnt love him like before and things have changed a lot in that regard).
And now the most retarded part. At that point I told her that I wont be messing up with her life as I was already walking on thin ice. I asked some questions (like what does she feel like doing, what should happen for her to be happy again etc). At the end I just asked what are her current plans for the future (she's leaving in the autumn). Long distance relationship. o.O wait what. Just moments ago she said that LDR is doable if the relationship is healthy and stable. Oh my. She thinks that if she doesn't see him for some time she will miss him more and this will fix things. I just told her that she should not wait for the problems to go away and waiting for a solution to fall from the sky is just wrong.
I couldn't tell her that she must break up with him immediately as there wasn't enough time and I didn't wanted to interrupt her while she was talking about the breakup attempts with tears in her eyes :/ we'll see each other this/next week and maybe talk again or something. I'll probably raise the issue then. Some things are still unclear to me, one if which is .. does she actually believe that one day she can live with him? If not, she's just delaying the inevitable.
Last edited by Tyrehl; July 18 2012 at 09:42:12 AM.
So she is just really dumb, cowardly and lacks initiative rather than outright evil. I suppose that's better, in a way. Still, being the third man is pretty beta.
Yeah definitely not evil, definitely dumb
And yeah im beta as fuck by the looks of it. Just got a txt from her, she wants me to come with her and her cousin (really cute at least 8.5/10, would hit) on a pool party. Not sure if thats a good idea (also not sure if she isn't trying to hook me up with her again, she was trying something like this before she decided that she wants me for herself in some way). Herp derp FML i better arm my ejection seat.
Keyboard options. Swype Keyboard. Spend 5 minutes learning. Type more successfully. I do this all the time mate, that fucking period button needs moving.
The best option here, for you, for her, for everyone, is to hit the cousin if you can.Yeah definitely not evil, definitely dumb
And yeah im beta as fuck by the looks of it. Just got a txt from her, she wants me to come with her and her cousin (really cute at least 8.5/10, would hit) on a pool party. Not sure if thats a good idea (also not sure if she isn't trying to hook me up with her again, she was trying something like this before she decided that she wants me for herself in some way). Herp derp FML i better arm my ejection seat.
If she gets jealous you can tell her to leave her bf, if she doesnt you have a better chance to hit an 8.5 with her encouragement.
Yeah, go. What's the harm. Altho I say the best thing would be to just sever the ties a bit. No one is going to change if they don't realize it for themselves. She needs some confidence to move on, stop feeling scared of what the future may bring and go out and have some new experiences. You're being used as her emosponge right now and that's not cool.The best option here, for you, for her, for everyone, is to hit the cousin if you can.Yeah definitely not evil, definitely dumb
And yeah im beta as fuck by the looks of it. Just got a txt from her, she wants me to come with her and her cousin (really cute at least 8.5/10, would hit) on a pool party. Not sure if thats a good idea (also not sure if she isn't trying to hook me up with her again, she was trying something like this before she decided that she wants me for herself in some way). Herp derp FML i better arm my ejection seat.
If she gets jealous you can tell her to leave her bf, if she doesnt you have a better chance to hit an 8.5 with her encouragement.
I also bet that if you show some resolve and push her a way a bit to save your own mental health, she'll change her way of thinking. Might sound like a PUA move but it only is if your goal is to nail her.
My X was pretty similar to her .... erh... 'current' bf. Thick as a brick when it came to the issues. Unreasonable. I wasn't AS bad as her, but I hesitated for a much longer time than I should have. But I think I needed that time to come to terms with that I would be so SO much better off if I just told her to get fucked and move.
It's not your problem. It could have been part of your future. It's not looking likely to be now so why not start moving mentally if not physically.
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