Echo, I know this probably won't be much comfort to you, but my first relationship only happened because the girl who dated me had just gotten out of an abusive relationship and didn't want me to go off to college a virgin. And while I was pining for her 700 miles away, she fucked six other people and then dumped me over the phone in the spring. It sucks...it sucks hardcore. But life does go on and you can recover. Regardless, :brofist:.
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Some follow up txts make me think she is abit confused and doesnt know what she really wants.
Its all still fresh and raw so just see how it goes but it certainly isnt easy to deal with while having to work long hours.
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This. This is why you fucked up.
You need to chill the fuck out. You are pushing wayyyy too hard and too fast. Most women dont want to be questioned about how their relationship is going after 2 fucking dates.
This is classic neckbeard syndrome - a girl shows a wiff of interest and you are all over her like a rash with texting, date requests every 10 minutes, probably sending her stupid shit via facebook or whatsapp etc.
Hilarious but tragic
The editor for the site I work for maintains and constantly dwells on this shit-list of the top ten worst moments of his childhood/adolescence. While nowhere near as awful as yours, it's no less unhealthy to continually obsess about these things into adulthood. If you aren't already, I would suggest you seek some kind of counselling.
Regarding breakup: Try not to feel bad man. Girl liked you enough to try and make you feel happy. If that's pity, then anytime anybody does something nice for anyone else is pity, which means it's nothing to be ashamed of.
Echo: She was a bitch and you did nothing wrong tbh. Sometimes you eat the bear, and sometimes, well...
Keep on keeping on bud. I don't think you should give up on relationships, when you find the right girl it's honestly pretty easy and non-stressful. Big ups.
Echo, you need to seek counselling. Even in the United States of Freedom to Die Alone, I'm sure there is some charity offering free trauma / mental help counselling. This will help you confront some of your demons and that will help hugely with the anger and upset you feel about stuff like this. It will also help ensure it wont happen again.
Without doing the sensible "search the emo thread for poster's past posts before putting your foot in it" I'd say if she is not currently dating that meathead guy and you do not at least try to get with that girl then when she starts dating him, you'll feel twice as bad about him knobbing her than you do about you being antagonistic to gain her attention now.
Make it clear how you feel without being all emo and intense about it. E.g. ask her on a date but leave the invitation open - "let me know if you fancy going out on a date some time?"
Contract stuff to Seraphina Amaranth.
"You give me the awful impression - I hate to have to say - of someone who hasn't read any of the arguments against your position. Ever."
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But I also feel that I need to point out your naivety and ignorance on this topic. A childhood like Echo's leaves scars that run deep, way deeper than anything most other people can relate to. It doesn't excuse his falling back on his past as a justification for things, as I totally agree with you that he should stop doing that. But you also have to acknowledge that you have no way of relating to him, no way to ever understand even the slightest aspect of the pain and scarring that comes from such experiences.
It's really easy to tell people not to wallow or obsess, especially when you've got nothing to compare it to. And some of those people are indeed simply weak, having got lost in their own unhappiness to the point where "victim" has become a defining aspect of their personality. But the vast majority of people who go through stuff like that aren't obsessed or wallowing, much as it may seem like that to you as an outsider. They are confronted with pain and fear and unwanted flashbacks every morning they wake up, fighting through patterns of abuse every waking moment.
Sometimes the people you think seem weak and pathetic, wallowing in their misery? They have a thousand times your mental fortitude, strength and willpower. They're just fighting things way beyond your comprehension.
Just my two cents on this topic. It struck a chord, no offense was meant. v0v
My fuckbuddy visited me today and an hour ago she went on a date. Until now I didn't care what she did once she was out the door, but today I was jelly. I am so going to ruin this perfect arrangement. I hope I'm just horny and not genuinely jelly.
Hey, I just met you,
and this is crazy
but here's my number,
so call me, maybe?