I SUCK WITH GIRLS AND NOBODY UNDERSTANDS ME (especially my ex-wife!) 4

[Sponk]

Sounds stupid, but you may need to make rules to unambiguously work out sexual availability ahead of time.

Something like 'if you're not wearing red panties, there will be no Business Time'.

[Sponk]

Sounds stupid, but you may need to make rules to unambiguously work out sexual availability ahead of time.

Something like 'if you're not wearing red panties, there will be no Business Time'.

[Under]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

[tekai]

voila

so you're a Mature cuddly pre-op TS, a SINBAD at heart (Single Income No Boyfriend And Desperate) who goes by the name Karen?
sobad

[Spaztick]

Well don't I feel normal and well-adjusted.

[Diicc Tater]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

You could just ask her and in a way help her understand it by just asking how she felt afterwards. I mean, she may be scarred enough as to confuse the normal awkwardness and apprehensions with trauma. I don't know anything about her or about what a victim feels, but to me it could be the trigger that just sets it of in the wrong way. Anyway, if she wasn't upset afterwards...

I know exactly what I would have done tho. I would have risked ruining the 'moment' by asking. I have cockblocked myself that way before so it wouldn't be the first time.

Wonder if she could have a 'safeword'... like 'whip n chain' dudes use. Instead of screaming OKLAHOMA OKLAHOMA when it hurts too much she could do it already at the 'oh shit his hands are on my but inside my panties'-point. I dunno, might be too late at that point.

[Lallante]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

It would be really, really helpful for you to become less enfatuated with her.

A lot of people who have trouble relating to women, dont have many friends etc tend to pin all their hopes on one girl, and are then devestated when their over-intensity scares that girl off, which leads to them becoming even more intense and broody and so on, a vicious cycle.

You sound like you need to work on other aspects of your life before looking for a serious girlfriend. Mainly making an effort to socialise with others.

[Sacul]

B'day yesterday. Was on a conference and as allways free drinks afterwards, celebrated my b'day with people i have never met, got drunk and....yeah ended up having sexy time with a 29 y/o social worker, average looking but a great laugh. nbs

Saturday will be spend with a proper party in Amsterdam, this time with people i do know. Sunday at redheards place doing it all over again (dont worry i havent told i her i want to marry her or that im in love, we are just having fun and thats clear and talked about).

Come monday i will need a liver transplant.

[XenosisReaper]

So a couple of weeks back I decided that I was never getting drunk in the presence of girls I like, so far this has been an excellent choice and I get to laugh at drunk whores a lot more than I would if I was also drunk and whoring.

It's pretty cool when my brain actually makes a good decision.

[Ask Unbeatable]

>rape innocent girl
>laugh at the "drunk whore" afterwards
>xenosis

[lt]

So a couple of weeks back I decided that I was never getting drunk in the presence of girls I like, so far this has been an excellent choice and I get to laugh at drunk whores a lot more than I would if I was also drunk and whoring.

It's pretty cool when my brain actually makes a good decision.

:thumbsup:

[XenosisReaper]

>rape innocent girl
>laugh at the "drunk whore" afterwards
>xenosis

You do realize that I also included myself as "drunk whore?"

Stop being bad

[Sacul]

>rape innocent girl
>laugh at the "drunk whore" afterwards
>xenosis

You do realize that I also included myself as "drunk whore?"

Stop being bad

wait wut? It was rape afterall? I thought it was inaproriate behaviour.

[Dark Flare]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

No-one has said it yet, so I will. Having sex with someone who was "on a break" was really stupid. Having sex with someone who has been raped in the past without verbally asking if she's sure, was really stupid.

[Sacul]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

No-one has said it yet, so I will. Having sex with someone who was "on a break" was really stupid. Having sex with someone who has been raped in the past without verbally asking if she's sure, was really stupid.

It seems this girl still has serious issues with her past but having known way to many rape victims, and having slept with a few of them (as i mentioned a few weeks its staggering how many women have been raped; just baffling) i can say from my experience asking if she is sure and in that way making her remember the past just before sex is absolutely the wrong thing to do, not just the self cockblock but you also revive a very bad memory with her just before you are going to have a (hopefully) wonderfull and good experience in bed with her.

tl;dr imo he wasnt being stupid

[Lallante]

So a couple of weeks back I decided that I was never getting drunk in the presence of girls I like, so far this has been an excellent choice and I get to laugh at drunk whores a lot more than I would if I was also drunk and whoring.

It's pretty cool when my brain actually makes a good decision.

No more drinking at family get togethers then?

[Lallante]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

No-one has said it yet, so I will. Having sex with someone who was "on a break" was really stupid. Having sex with someone who has been raped in the past without verbally asking if she's sure, was really stupid.

It seems this girl still has serious issues with her past but having known way to many rape victims, and having slept with a few of them (as i mentioned a few weeks its staggering how many women have been raped; just baffling) i can say from my experience asking if she is sure and in that way making her remember the past just before sex is absolutely the wrong thing to do, not just the self cockblock but you also revive a very bad memory with her just before you are going to have a (hopefully) wonderfull and good experience in bed with her.

tl;dr imo he wasnt being stupid

In how many of those girls case was it you who did the raping?

[Dark Flare]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

No-one has said it yet, so I will. Having sex with someone who was "on a break" was really stupid. Having sex with someone who has been raped in the past without verbally asking if she's sure, was really stupid.

It seems this girl still has serious issues with her past but having known way to many rape victims, and having slept with a few of them (as i mentioned a few weeks its staggering how many women have been raped; just baffling) i can say from my experience asking if she is sure and in that way making her remember the past just before sex is absolutely the wrong thing to do, not just the self cockblock but you also revive a very bad memory with her just before you are going to have a (hopefully) wonderfull and good experience in bed with her.

tl;dr imo he wasnt being stupid

What? You don't say "Are you sure you want to have sex because I know you got raped and everything." Saying something like "are you sure?" or "are we going too fast?" isn't going to make her think about rape.
EDIT: For that matter you should be checking that the first time you have sex with ANYONE, nevermind someone who's been raped.

[Sacul]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

No-one has said it yet, so I will. Having sex with someone who was "on a break" was really stupid. Having sex with someone who has been raped in the past without verbally asking if she's sure, was really stupid.

It seems this girl still has serious issues with her past but having known way to many rape victims, and having slept with a few of them (as i mentioned a few weeks its staggering how many women have been raped; just baffling) i can say from my experience asking if she is sure and in that way making her remember the past just before sex is absolutely the wrong thing to do, not just the self cockblock but you also revive a very bad memory with her just before you are going to have a (hopefully) wonderfull and good experience in bed with her.

tl;dr imo he wasnt being stupid

In how many of those girls case was it you who did the raping?

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[Diicc Tater]

thanks for the speedy and helpful replies brahs, <3 FHC.

Based on what she said, the making out and dry humping was genuine and likely rebound comfort related, but then the fear and trauma came out during the escalation to sex. I have no idea though how much of a role it played, and I'd like to think that it wasn't the only factor, but then again I know she's haunted by her past. Like Indi said, I'll probably never know exactly what happened, and there's a good chance she doesn't either.

No-one has said it yet, so I will. Having sex with someone who was "on a break" was really stupid. Having sex with someone who has been raped in the past without verbally asking if she's sure, was really stupid.

It seems this girl still has serious issues with her past but having known way to many rape victims, and having slept with a few of them (as i mentioned a few weeks its staggering how many women have been raped; just baffling) i can say from my experience asking if she is sure and in that way making her remember the past just before sex is absolutely the wrong thing to do, not just the self cockblock but you also revive a very bad memory with her just before you are going to have a (hopefully) wonderfull and good experience in bed with her.

tl;dr imo he wasnt being stupid

What? You don't say "Are you sure you want to have sex because I know you got raped and everything." Saying something like "are you sure?" or "are we going too fast?" isn't going to make her think about rape.
EDIT: For that matter you should be checking that the first time you have sex with ANYONE, nevermind someone who's been raped.

that. not only may it cockblock you but it may un-block her and in a case like this it really is the only reasonable way to do it. Also, is she's drunk and DOESN'T answer AT ALL, that's a no. yeah, looking at you XR.