The Sex Thread - Yes, Anal Play is Really Nice

[Lana Torrin]

Only advice I'm ever going to give on this subject.. Porn movies != real life. Forget everything you have seen in them.

[elmicker]

Just make sure you don't both shave. That hair's there for a reason.

[EchoEpsilon23]

I feel dirty by reading this thread, I think the realization that I'm asexual or at least semi-antisexual is a realization that I'm coming to terms with, I wonder if their was a way to make sex seem not so much like sacrilege or even demonic hedonistic pleasures only suited for Utilitarianism. But I'll try to keep an open mind about this even though I know that all my experience with women and men have been less then success, since I'm uglier than a mule, taller than a giant, dumber than a turd.

[Lachesis VII]

(Guys, you can do them too to gain a ton of self control, but that's another topic).

Have heard about this, however I'm not quite sure how realistic it is. Last year, I had my first girlfriend who I was willing to have "ungloved love" with and my normal process of lasting for an hour quickly became lasting 3 minutes if I went at the same pace. I got really into doing kegel exercises however I felt that I got the most benefit from regular sex and going slow. However, we broke up a few weeks later due to a pregnancy scare so I dunno how much is needed to have a noticeable effect.

It's about being more aware of the muscles than it is a strength or conditioning thing. I mean, there are benefits to having strong PC muscles (easier to get it up, stay harder, etc.... but there are drugs for that :P), but mostly it's about being able to feel what your body is doing and exercise a degree of control over it. I've found that learning how to relax is actually the biggest part of it.

Laches: I need more tips into "how to get girl to do anal"....I've had some success with certain girls others are hard to break :S

Ugh. The main thing I can suggest is lots of oral, and using fingers while you do it. Assuming she's like, fresh out of the shower, you might try rimming her; but that will make some girls freak out. I think that a lot of girls that "don't like anal" have had negative experiences. It's easy to screw up if a guy goes too fast and expects to be able to go porno-style on a girl's ass when she's not used to that kind of treatment. That kind of thing needs to be worked up to.

Also, another factor... not having a terrifyingly huge penis helps as well.

Really though the bottom line is that some girls are just categorically against it, but there's a degree of truth to the old Chris Rock comedy routine about girls being a lot dirtier if you just tell them what you want and don't beat around the bush or sound timid about it. Lots of girls are happy to be told what to do, rather than asked. Doesn't mean you'll get away with telling her "i'm going to fuck your ass" or something, but assertiveness goes a long way.

My final attempt is usually just not going down on her if she isn't shaved.

That helps, as does shaving yourself. Also, offer to shave her, like, do the work for her.

[Lachesis VII]

Just make sure you don't both shave. That hair's there for a reason.

No, you just have to make sure that you're both *well* shaved. Feels good man.

[Cue1*]

My final attempt is usually just not going down on her if she isn't shaved.

That helps, as does shaving yourself. Also, offer to shave her, like, do the work for her.

Tried that once, got some pretty ugly looks from her when she realized she had a few nicks. Whoops. Haven't tried it since.

[Lachesis VII]

My final attempt is usually just not going down on her if she isn't shaved.

That helps, as does shaving yourself. Also, offer to shave her, like, do the work for her.

Tried that once, got some pretty ugly looks from her when she realized she had a few nicks. Whoops. Haven't tried it since.

Practice makes perfect.

[Jason Marshall]

Shaving yourself is always a pain at first, kinda got to build up a tolerance to it. Always shave in the same direction with the grain, and try to only do 2 or 3 passes. If I let it go for to long ill do a few passes in the morning when I shower then a few in the evening with a shower. Really hate razor burn. Id assume ladies do too, but the process of shaving should be about the same, so practicing on yourself can be handy.

[Blutreiter]

One way to get a girl into anal sex is by massaging her anus while doing her from behind. In this position you can grab the ass, slap it, spread the cheeks, do all sorts of things... including putting your thumb there when you grab said ass.

Rhythmic massaging while fucking her properly ensures pretty much no resistance, just make sure you don't go inside without permission. One of the girls I did this with started complaining that she cannot clench her pussy muscles anymore and I am a jerk and for gods sake, please don't stop (ding ding, we have a winner!). Others will ask you to remove your finger... which you can do reluctantly and focus on it later again.

The sensation will get most of them into it if they are not completely wierded out by the idea of anal sex, but I have never seen a girl who didn't at least enjoy a good ass massage. Doing it while doggystyling her just lowers the inhibitions and the defenses.

[Seamus]

Shaved has to be freshly shaved - stubble is just as bad (if not worse) as a bush. Personally a small bit of trimmed quim is the goldilocks zone.

[ctrlchris]

This my eyes have now been opened to the world of fisting.

[Lachesis VII]

This my eyes have now been opened to the world of fisting.

I'll do another longpost tomorrow on more vanilla stuff, a few things re: sexual communication and figuring out what the girl wants. I've got some theories about that (none of that fucking PUA bullshit). Just basic sex skills. It's not hard to be good partner; most guys are idiots and just blindly thrust away for a few minutes until they come and then it's over. No finesse, no foreplay, nothing.

I could also longpost about:
Bondage
Caning/paddling
Rough stuff (slapping/choking/hair pulling/physical restraint)
Dirty talk
Sex and drugs

I've got 5 final papers to write this semester, so I'll probably longpost once for each paper to get me into the writing mood.

[Blutreiter]

I vote bondage.

[Stoffl]

Voting Lachesis VII for preemptive best poaster '11 award

[Rans]

This my eyes have now been opened to the world of fisting.

I'll do another longpost tomorrow on more vanilla stuff, a few things re: sexual communication and figuring out what the girl wants. I've got some theories about that (none of that fucking PUA bullshit). Just basic sex skills. It's not hard to be good partner; most guys are idiots and just blindly thrust away for a few minutes until they come and then it's over. No finesse, no foreplay, nothing.

I could also longpost about:
Bondage
Caning/paddling
Rough stuff (slapping/choking/hair pulling/physical restraint)
Dirty talk
Sex and drugs

I've got 5 final papers to write this semester, so I'll probably longpost once for each paper to get me into the writing mood.

interested in dirty talk and sex and drugs, if you can do these two i will forever be grateful.

[Ralara]

This my eyes have now been opened to the world of fisting.

I'll do another longpost tomorrow on more vanilla stuff, a few things re: sexual communication and figuring out what the girl wants. I've got some theories about that (none of that fucking PUA bullshit). Just basic sex skills. It's not hard to be good partner; most guys are idiots and just blindly thrust away for a few minutes until they come and then it's over. No finesse, no foreplay, nothing.

I could also longpost about:
Bondage
Caning/paddling
Rough stuff (slapping/choking/hair pulling/physical restraint)
Dirty talk
Sex and drugs

I've got 5 final papers to write this semester, so I'll probably longpost once for each paper to get me into the writing mood.

interested in dirty talk and sex and drugs, if you can do these two i will forever be grateful.

I've had lots of experience of sex and weed... nothing harder though.

[IHurricane]

Long time lurker, registered on SHC back in 2006 but never felt the urge to post much. But this thread could actually help me solve a couple of "issues".

I am not the most sexually experienced guy. I've fucked, fingered and fooled around with my share of girls, but it has only been under the influence of alcohol. I recently got a girlfriend who I've been having sex with a couple of times now and this is where the issues start (who would have guessed). First some info about her, she only been with one guy before me and had a relationship with him for about a year. She says that with him sex kinda turned into a negative thing and during that whole year she only had an orgasm once or twice. Between me and him there is about two years and during this time she says that she only masturbated about a handfull of times and did not have a single orgasm. She is also pritty mindfull about her body not being perfect (well its not perfect but who the hell got one, objectivly speaking I would say that she is pritty good looking).

I've been trying my best to give her the best possible experience, where I take it slow, foreplay, kissing, etc. But I seem unable to get her to orgasm. She refuses to recieve oral sex, I've been pushing her a bit on this, but she is simply not comfertable with it. I've tried fingerring her to orgasm using quite a lot of different techniques (not just simply rubbing her clit), playing, rubbing, circeling, applying different kinds of pressure, etc. She says this feels good but after going at it for 10 minutes it simply does not get her anywhere, she then usually tells me to stop it. As for the fucking part, I am unsure how much she actually feels or how good it feels. I don't have a gigant cock, but it is not small either about avarage I would guess, but again all she seems to get is this well it feels good but nothing more feeling. I've tried to massage her clit while we are fucking, but again it does not get her anywhere (I can hold my load for about 3-4 minutes, so I dont think it is a time issue).

I think it boils down to me not beeing "good" enough, so I ask you for some tips and hints, what do you do usually works? Any tips concering how to give your girl the best experience possible are much apriciated!

[Ralara]

I can't speak specifically for girls here, but being nervous or unsure in bed (on her part) can lead to stuff like this - I've known guys who are seemingly incapable of orgasms - hell, I can take a while sometimes.

I'd suggest not mentioning it to her - try to take her mind off it.

Try taking it a little slower - maybe some candles or incense or other mood enhancers. Have you tried giving her a light massage?

As for oral - some people don't like it... pressuring her in to it I don't think will help.

[Raine Woot]

What he said, sounds like she's all wound up about it not being as good as it should. I have the same problem when things are starting to drag on and I'm not getting anywhere - once that thought is in my head it feels like I'm failing and nothing will ever happen. Just make it easy for her to relax, never do or say anything that'll make her feel bad about it. Either she'll never get over it or she'll start to feel comfortable with taking things a bit further and let you know. Talking it out honestly might help her, or it might drive her further away. Without knowing her I can't really say how to go about it.

[IceBlock]

wtf is this shit? dont use condome, no fucking point; it can't breathe through rubber. lube? forget it, either us vaginal fluid or spit on that ass. force it inside and tap that ass fucking hard. if she cries more creds to you!