The Sex Thread - Yes, Anal Play is Really Nice

[Roam]

I was implying that it is a lot more likely that you were taken for a fool by a girl that wanted to boost your confidence, and succeeded.

Even as the best lover in the world, making a girl come upwards of 11 times is pretty unlikely, and certainly can't be done with any woman.

[LarkinAlpha]

Could have been minor orgasims. My Wife has two types, and usually gets several minor's leading into a major finish.

[Cue1*]

Your post included stuff like 'can go for 30 mins' and 'how much time we lost to sex', so I went from there. Ten minutes seems quite normal/OK to me. 'Not sure if she came' also didn't lead me to suppose screaming/raking/biting

I didn't mean to insult your sexual prowess in any way, I just tried to answer your question. I hope others' answers were more useful than mine

I wasn't insulted, and when asking for advice I try not to get defensive, as that usually defeats the purpose. I guess my post was too dry to not see that, I was mostly just clarifying. I also kinda cheated and asked her since she apparently WAS watching time. It was an hour total, but that includes a 20-30 minute shower and at least 5 minutes lost to me forgetting my condoms in the car, and an unknown amount of time spent on foreplay. I took a guess on how long the intercourse was, but I really don't think it was 'too long'. I would however, still say that I don't know if she came since I didn't ask her, which is something I've been kicking myself about for a week now.

Lady told me "you'll know when I do" and boy was she right.

I'm inclined to agree with Spaztick here. In my experience, I've yet to sleep with a woman where you can't tell. It's not so much due to porno-esque groaning and moaning, because that can be faked and some girls are very quiet, but because of physical reactions they can't control. Every woman I've been with had a slight shuddering, quick and prolonged exhalation and eye rolling upon orgasm, all of which are pretty easy to spot. Of course, I'm not in the triple digits, so my statistical experiences would probably not be considered scientifically acceptable. ;p

Chances are though that she didn't come if you didn't notice it. Which doesn't have to be a big thing, just make it up to her next time.

If you really believe that, then I'd love to introduce to you to one of my ex's. She's never had an orgasm in her life but I bet she'll convince you otherwise.

Anyway, the point I tried to get across is that I DIDN'T ASK which in my book means I don't know. After dating said girlfriend I trust none of the usual responses.

For the record I am now getting annoyed since no one is answering my question and is instead picking apart other parts of my post. In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

[definatelynotKKassandra]

Stop fapping.

[Zekk Pacus]

Thinner condoms or other stimulation is pretty much all you can do. No orgasms at all for a while, including what KK said - no self-achievement.

[Rami]

Stop fapping.

Am I the only one who thinks masturbation does not dull the experience of sex? Sure it may dull the sexual need/desire, but the feeling is imho so different that the two are completely different experiences that in the end achieve the same thing. Perhaps this is because I am married and have had the same partner for 10 years pretty much v0v

[Roam]

Your post included stuff like 'can go for 30 mins' and 'how much time we lost to sex', so I went from there. Ten minutes seems quite normal/OK to me. 'Not sure if she came' also didn't lead me to suppose screaming/raking/biting

I didn't mean to insult your sexual prowess in any way, I just tried to answer your question. I hope others' answers were more useful than mine

I wasn't insulted, and when asking for advice I try not to get defensive, as that usually defeats the purpose. I guess my post was too dry to not see that, I was mostly just clarifying. I also kinda cheated and asked her since she apparently WAS watching time. It was an hour total, but that includes a 20-30 minute shower and at least 5 minutes lost to me forgetting my condoms in the car, and an unknown amount of time spent on foreplay. I took a guess on how long the intercourse was, but I really don't think it was 'too long'. I would however, still say that I don't know if she came since I didn't ask her, which is something I've been kicking myself about for a week now.

Lady told me "you'll know when I do" and boy was she right.

I'm inclined to agree with Spaztick here. In my experience, I've yet to sleep with a woman where you can't tell. It's not so much due to porno-esque groaning and moaning, because that can be faked and some girls are very quiet, but because of physical reactions they can't control. Every woman I've been with had a slight shuddering, quick and prolonged exhalation and eye rolling upon orgasm, all of which are pretty easy to spot. Of course, I'm not in the triple digits, so my statistical experiences would probably not be considered scientifically acceptable. ;p

Chances are though that she didn't come if you didn't notice it. Which doesn't have to be a big thing, just make it up to her next time.

If you really believe that, then I'd love to introduce to you to one of my ex's. She's never had an orgasm in her life but I bet she'll convince you otherwise.

Anyway, the point I tried to get across is that I DIDN'T ASK which in my book means I don't know. After dating said girlfriend I trust none of the usual responses.

For the record I am now getting annoyed since no one is answering my question and is instead picking apart other parts of my post. In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

Sorry mate, didn't mean to upset you, thought the question had been answered before with "thinner condoms". Mostly there isn't anything but that, really. There's no magic trick to get more sensitivity while wearing a condom, there's a reason most guys hate the things.

As for the "undetectable fake orgasm" thing... It'd be petty of me to respond with a "didn't we start this topic with you not being able to tell if your girl had an orgasm, therefore you're perhaps not the best person to judge a fake orgasm on how convincing it is", but let's not. I'm sure there's women who have perfected the art, hence why I hedged my post with so many "in my experience etc etc". That being said, to play Devil's Advocate and stuff: some parts of a woman's orgasm are simply physiological, and therefore cannot be faked without great effort and skill. The aforementioned "shudder" that Indi also identified as indeed being part of (at least her) female orgasm is pretty telltale, and I have yet to encounter a woman who doesn't have it.

Larkin: I believe in terms of formal sex terminology and stuff mini-orgasms aren't actually counted as orgasms or something? I dunno, I definitely know what you're referring to, my girlfriend has it too but it is so fundamentally different from a full orgasm that I'm not sure they can be categorized together. But eh, what do I know.

Much roamy <3 to everyone anyhow.

[Zekk Pacus]

Stop fapping.

Am I the only one who thinks masturbation does not dull the experience of sex? Sure it may dull the sexual need/desire, but the feeling is imho so different that the two are completely different experiences that in the end achieve the same thing. Perhaps this is because I am married and have had the same partner for 10 years pretty much v0v

It may not, but it does dull the ejaculation reflex and some of the nerves. At least this is the feeling I have, and I've had the same partner for coming up on seven years.

[LarkinAlpha]

Your post included stuff like 'can go for 30 mins' and 'how much time we lost to sex', so I went from there. Ten minutes seems quite normal/OK to me. 'Not sure if she came' also didn't lead me to suppose screaming/raking/biting

I didn't mean to insult your sexual prowess in any way, I just tried to answer your question. I hope others' answers were more useful than mine

I wasn't insulted, and when asking for advice I try not to get defensive, as that usually defeats the purpose. I guess my post was too dry to not see that, I was mostly just clarifying. I also kinda cheated and asked her since she apparently WAS watching time. It was an hour total, but that includes a 20-30 minute shower and at least 5 minutes lost to me forgetting my condoms in the car, and an unknown amount of time spent on foreplay. I took a guess on how long the intercourse was, but I really don't think it was 'too long'. I would however, still say that I don't know if she came since I didn't ask her, which is something I've been kicking myself about for a week now.

Lady told me "you'll know when I do" and boy was she right.

I'm inclined to agree with Spaztick here. In my experience, I've yet to sleep with a woman where you can't tell. It's not so much due to porno-esque groaning and moaning, because that can be faked and some girls are very quiet, but because of physical reactions they can't control. Every woman I've been with had a slight shuddering, quick and prolonged exhalation and eye rolling upon orgasm, all of which are pretty easy to spot. Of course, I'm not in the triple digits, so my statistical experiences would probably not be considered scientifically acceptable. ;p

Chances are though that she didn't come if you didn't notice it. Which doesn't have to be a big thing, just make it up to her next time.

If you really believe that, then I'd love to introduce to you to one of my ex's. She's never had an orgasm in her life but I bet she'll convince you otherwise.

Anyway, the point I tried to get across is that I DIDN'T ASK which in my book means I don't know. After dating said girlfriend I trust none of the usual responses.

For the record I am now getting annoyed since no one is answering my question and is instead picking apart other parts of my post. In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

Sorry mate, didn't mean to upset you, thought the question had been answered before with "thinner condoms". Mostly there isn't anything but that, really. There's no magic trick to get more sensitivity while wearing a condom, there's a reason most guys hate the things.

As for the "undetectable fake orgasm" thing... It'd be petty of me to respond with a "didn't we start this topic with you not being able to tell if your girl had an orgasm, therefore you're perhaps not the best person to judge a fake orgasm on how convincing it is", but let's not. I'm sure there's women who have perfected the art, hence why I hedged my post with so many "in my experience etc etc". That being said, to play Devil's Advocate and stuff: some parts of a woman's orgasm are simply physiological, and therefore cannot be faked without great effort and skill. The aforementioned "shudder" that Indi also identified as indeed being part of (at least her) female orgasm is pretty telltale, and I have yet to encounter a woman who doesn't have it.

Larkin: I believe in terms of formal sex terminology and stuff mini-orgasms aren't actually counted as orgasms or something? I dunno, I definitely know what you're referring to, my girlfriend has it too but it is so fundamentally different from a full orgasm that I'm not sure they can be categorized together. But eh, what do I know.

Much roamy <3 to everyone anyhow.

They're just peaks of pleasure leading up to the main event. Oftentimes if a girl hasn't had an actual orgasm, they'll assume that these peaks are the best it gets. When we started dating, my wife was one of those so we've had a fun time together.

[halbarad]

Is there anyone here who's into pegging or am I the only one?

Something I'm kind of interested in but not sure I can get the GF interested as she seems put off by anything anal related (which I'm hoping to change).

[Fourfingers frankie]

Jesus FMAR, pegging and strapons your such a deviant :-) the gf does it sometimes, goes well with a good strangle fuck.

[Aypse]

Anyone know a good hypoallergenic vaginal lube for use with toys? My wife has tried Astroglide and ID Glide but both cause minor irritation. Also, is it the glycerin that causes irritation? Anyone use plain old ky jelly?

[Sponk]

Anyone know a good hypoallergenic vaginal lube for use with toys?

I'm at work so I totally can't check, but I think it's called Liquid Silk.

[Tarminic]

Closest thing I've done to pegging is this...triple bullet thing that has 3 separate vibrating components, two for her and one for me. It was an interesting sensation but without actual prostate stimulation it was more distracting than anything. Not unwilling to try it again though.

[CastleBravo]

Anyone know a good hypoallergenic vaginal lube for use with toys? My wife has tried Astroglide and ID Glide but both cause minor irritation. Also, is it the glycerin that causes irritation? Anyone use plain old ky jelly?

http://www.amazon.com/Capzasin-HP-Ar....1%25+capsacin

[Lachesis VII]

Anyone know a good hypoallergenic vaginal lube for use with toys? My wife has tried Astroglide and ID Glide but both cause minor irritation. Also, is it the glycerin that causes irritation? Anyone use plain old ky jelly?

Get something silicone based. Anything by the pjur brand will meet your needs. Gun Oil is also really really good (just make sure you get the silicone version, not the "H2O" water-based version).

[KathDougans]

In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

There was a thing on SHC a long time ago, I'm not sure, but I'm going to credit Monkeysphere with posting it, it seems like something they'd post.

it read as follows:

"testicles lift automatically before ejaculation. lifting them yourself will make it easier to ejaculate; lowering them will make you hold longer. "
"Orgasms are triggered by a tension in the pelvis called Myotonia. To build up this tension repeatedly tighten and relax your leg- and ab-muscles."

So, I don't know, you might want to get your girlfriend to pull on your testicles a little, then she can lift them up when she wants you to come.
Or use your own muscles to trigger things. Or both.

[Cue1*]

In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

There was a thing on SHC a long time ago, I'm not sure, but I'm going to credit Monkeysphere with posting it, it seems like something they'd post.

it read as follows:

"testicles lift automatically before ejaculation. lifting them yourself will make it easier to ejaculate; lowering them will make you hold longer. "
"Orgasms are triggered by a tension in the pelvis called Myotonia. To build up this tension repeatedly tighten and relax your leg- and ab-muscles."

So, I don't know, you might want to get your girlfriend to pull on your testicles a little, then she can lift them up when she wants you to come.
Or use your own muscles to trigger things. Or both.

Interesting. Will have to try it.

[Diicc Tater]

In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

There was a thing on SHC a long time ago, I'm not sure, but I'm going to credit Monkeysphere with posting it, it seems like something they'd post.

it read as follows:

"testicles lift automatically before ejaculation. lifting them yourself will make it easier to ejaculate; lowering them will make you hold longer. "
"Orgasms are triggered by a tension in the pelvis called Myotonia. To build up this tension repeatedly tighten and relax your leg- and ab-muscles."

So, I don't know, you might want to get your girlfriend to pull on your testicles a little, then she can lift them up when she wants you to come.
Or use your own muscles to trigger things. Or both.

Interesting. Will have to try it.

Gently but firmly grabbing and 'lowering' your balls work but you'll have to learn how to time it. Better to do that yourself tho. Never tried the lift.

[Nartek]

In case anyone forgot, here's my question: Does anyone know how to not have to spend 5 hours to come when using a condom? IE: become more sensitive with a condom on.

There was a thing on SHC a long time ago, I'm not sure, but I'm going to credit Monkeysphere with posting it, it seems like something they'd post.

it read as follows:

"testicles lift automatically before ejaculation. lifting them yourself will make it easier to ejaculate; lowering them will make you hold longer. "
"Orgasms are triggered by a tension in the pelvis called Myotonia. To build up this tension repeatedly tighten and relax your leg- and ab-muscles."

So, I don't know, you might want to get your girlfriend to pull on your testicles a little, then she can lift them up when she wants you to come.
Or use your own muscles to trigger things. Or both.

Interesting. Will have to try it.

Gently but firmly grabbing and 'lowering' your balls work but you'll have to learn how to time it. Better to do that yourself tho. Never tried the lift.

Also has a lot to do with the prostate and blood flow; certain positions work it quite a bit more than others. (mish vs cowgirl, for instance). Some of the racier yoga style positions can more or less hold you off indefinitely, because you're really not working your prostate, and you can clamp down on the blood flow.

However, I've also noticed that if I do reach orgasm through a means that doesn't accommodate both (prostate and blood flow... I.E. if I'm not in mish, or taking it from behind)... the orgasms aren't nearly as intense, and the ejaculate feeling is a bit more "meh".

Also, I tend to laugh when I cum fairly hard.

One thing I've been able to do since, hell, since I was around 20 or so is to just burn through the my first orgasm, and keep going. (basically you have the refractory period while still hard, and going at it.) But that's only in a no condom situation. Tried it once with a condom; didn't work out too well.

Oh yeah, condoms... Condoms decrease sensitivity in two different ways. First is through a lack of feeling for the nerve endings. You can put lube inside the condom (Careful with this; if the girl is up on her kegels and performs them... on a well lubed condom; you may wind up spending the evening trying to dig a condom out of her.). Lube inside helps a little, but the other culprit is the rubber band around the base of the cock. There are cock rings you jam your balls through that stop you from having an orgasm; and there are cock rings (vibrating durex "play" series type) that do a healthy job of pinching off a lot of the blood flow. (If you're interested in this, and would like to know more... save the money on the durex one-shot types, and invest in the vibrating rabbit ears from Rampant Rabbit. You can change the batteries out on that, and it's a lot more "fun". I got one, and I highly recommend it.) Aaaaaanyways; yeah, condoms can fuck up your orgasm in three ways that I've experienced:

1. Lack of feeling-lube can help, but it can make it easier for the condom to go exploring on its own.
2. Ring around the shaft-kills bloodflow. Chaning position to help this (missionary or a variant of the guy on top).
3. When you do ejaculate, the rubber band-base can pinch/restrict part of that flow, which can create a bit of a blue-ball feeling.