
Originally Posted by
Isyel

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Cosmin

Originally Posted by
Dorvil Barranis

Originally Posted by
Cosmin
Colleague yesterday rambling that the more you give, the more you receive yada yada, I'm complete poker face and that's not how it works irl, but fuck me what do I know :/
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If you project positivity in your speech and actions, you will live in a more positive environment than if you project negativity. That is the closest thing to it, and I do believe and try to live by that. Also the closest thing to karma that I believe in.
Except it doesn't work in general. It works for particular situations, rare as they are and that's it. Outside of that it's just adding in a shadow of regret when people invariably fuck you over. It won't stop them from doing that, though.
Source: for over 30 years I've been a fucking boy scout and I'm nowhere near receiving what I've offered and I don't mean in a material way. Maybe it's not really how it works and it's a bit more random than that, eh? Fact is I don't care anymore, if tomorrow I meet the perfect person and I get everything I'll probably not trust it to be genuine.
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M8. M8. M8.
Slow down. Take a deep breath.
Being positive doesn't mean you just give everything and expect shit to be given to you in return, that's anything but and is prime "Nice guy" syndrome and as such bullshit.
It also doesn't mean bad shit never happens to you, expecting that is utterly ridiculous.
Is it really so unreasonable to think that not being a miserable tiresome cunt might have a positive effect on your life and relationships? I know right? For the record, I know all about being a miserable tiresome cunt as everyone knows well.
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I'm unsure where I seem to be distressed by this. It was just an insight, I'm over being bothered by it. As a side note, I don't expect anything from anyone in a good way, if anything I'm neutral, however experience taught me that bad shit is way more frequent than good shit.
I'm not being a miserable tiresome cunt. I have a smile for everybody coming and going in my life, doesn't matter. It's just that deep down it never is what I'd like it to be and it never becomes more.
An example of wish it was different but will never happen, I've met somebody few months back and she is great. We have lots in common, chemistry and what not, hobbies, we're getting along really great despite not being the same nationality (this is a lot harder irl than it may seem, getting along well despite cultural differences and what not). But we could never actually ever start a relationship because she's embedded in one for years albeit she doesn't seem to be happy in it I couldn't barge in and set up shop (even though she frequently complained about the chap). It's something I don't like doing. But makes me think, if we don't pursue happiness where we may get it, what next? Is karma going to drop us a similar person later on in life because we were nice guys and didn't go for it?
Let me put it this way. I'm so jaded lately because about 13 years sunk in relationships have turned out sour because when I needed support and understanding I didn't get any even though I provided plenty. I know being a sourpuss about it isn't helping, but srsly fuck life and being nice. I can't be evil either though, example above given ^^ So it's probs going to just turn up ok eventually but I'm impatient lately for obvious reasons (I do have a cat but feel lonely increasingly often even with the purrs).
So no, it doesn't work that way, be nice and it'll be nice for you. Psychologically and physically it may be (endorphins, etc), however it's a lie. It's mostly random when you draw a line, you can do your best and still get fucked royally and you can do nothing at all and yield impressing results (the latter being the more baffling imho).
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